How to Save a Dying Relationship: Is There a Restart?

Are you feeling lost in a sea of broken promises and fading love?

Many couples face tough times. According to NCH Stats, about 40% of first marriages fail.

We don’t mean to discourage you, but rather let you know that many don’t have the desired healthy relationship. Our experience shows that, in most cases, there’s hope…as the saying goes:

“We love because we can lose. If there was no threat of separation, we probably wouldn’t love much at all”

But before we get into the main topic of how to save a dying relationship, you should probably evaluate your current situation:

Should you seek a second chance to find love, or is a restart on the cards?

Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Determining if a broken relationship is worth saving depends mainly on whether both partners are willing to put in the effort to make it happen. We believe that many relationships are worth fighting for, especially when:

» Partners are committed to making positive changes

» There’s still a strong emotional connection

» You share core values and long-term goals

» The relationship brings more joy than pain overall

» There’s mutual respect, even during disagreements

Of course, sometimes you need to let go of someone you love, like in cases of abuse or persistent unhappiness. We hope this isn’t your current situation.

So, here are our tips to breathe new life into your dying relationship.

7 Proven Ways to Fix Your Relationship

At Most Gifted Psychics, we’ve helped many couples with love and relationship advice so they can navigate rough waters and emerge stronger.

These seven steps have consistently shown to be effective in repairing damaged relationships, regardless of the specific challenges. If you just need to handle a few differences, we have another article on that.

Let’s dig deep into these tried-and-true methods.

Break the Silence to Reignite Communication

Communication is the lifeblood of any good relationship. We’ve seen couples transform their dying relationships by simply taking this first step…learning to talk again.

A calm and honest conversation about your feelings and needs is a great starting point.

A good example is a couple we worked with in the spring of 2024. All they did was set aside 30 minutes each day for uninterrupted talk time…that means NO television and phones!

We had a few more short sessions with them. But even before that, they realized that being able to communicate openly and honestly again is a sign of true love in the relationship.

Like Tony Gaskins tweeted about a decade ago:

“Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. Without it…it dies!”

Reconnect Emotionally and Bridge the Gap

Emotional distance makes partners feel like strangers…there’s no two ways about it.

We encourage rebuilding emotional connection through small, daily acts of kindness and appreciation. Then, you can take it further and share your dreams and fears.

Most importantly, show interest in your partner’s feelings and well-being.

Physical affection, like hugs or holding hands, will also help bridge the emotional gap. These simple gestures can make a big difference in feeling close and connected.

As emphasized in a Gottman Institute article:

“Every time you and your partner turn towards each other, you make a deposit into what Dr. John Gottman calls the Emotional Bank Account”

Rebuild Trust with a New Foundation

We’ve tried to guide many in rebuilding trust after betrayals or broken promises, and things don’t always work out. But our practice has taught us that:

While trust is fragile, it’s not impossible to rebuild.

Here is what we’ve seen working time and time again. It’s not easy, but it is worth trying:

» Be honest about past mistakes and take full responsibility

» Be consistent in your words and actions moving forward

Another thing you could try is creating a trust jar…have you heard of it?

A lady we worked with read about it somewhere and made a trust jar for herself and her partner. The idea was to write down moments when the other person proved trustworthy. The jar was a visual reminder that kept them focused on rebuilding rather than dwelling on past hurts.

Turn Conflicts into Opportunities for Growth

Conflict is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be destructive…actually, it can be productive.

We teach couples to reframe arguments as chances for understanding and growth. Instead of attacking each other, focus on the issue at hand. For example:

Use “I” statements to express your feelings without blaming or take short “cool-down” breaks during heated moments.

This will significantly improve your conflict resolution more often than not. By approaching disagreements with respect and a willingness to compromise…

You can turn potential relationship-breakers into relationship-strengtheners.

Rediscover and Unite Your Shared Goals

Over time, couples can drift apart in their life goals. In our experience, the solution often is to reconnect by exploring individual and shared aspirations.

» Sit down together and discuss your visions for the future

» Find common ground and create joint goals to work towards

If you’ve been together long enough, chances are there is a shared passion you’ve forgotten about. Let’s say you loved to travel…start doing it again.

It will reignite the sense of adventure. You’ll spend quality time together, which will help you maintain happiness in your relationship.

Try to align your paths, and you’ll create a stronger feeling of unity and purpose.

Spark the Flame Again and Rekindle Intimacy

Maintaining intimacy for years is no easy task. Yet, passion is one of the key ingredients of love that makes relationships last.

Believe it or not, we advise couples to first focus on non-sexual touching and affection to rebuild physical closeness…intimacy is about emotional connection as much as physical.

Once things start warming up again, you can sexually focus on each other. Share your desires and fantasies, and be open to trying new things together.

You can bring back the passion in your relationship with effort and creativity.

How about instituting a “no technology in the bedroom” rule?

We’ve seen it work quite a few times.

Rewrite Your Story Through New Positive Memories

We know that not all relationships are the same, but every relationship has its history. And you have the power to create a new narrative.

One way to go is to intentionally create positive experiences together. There are so many fun things to do in this world…try new activities and revisit old favorites.

What we often recommend is starting a weekly “new experience” challenge, trying everything you can think of. It’s plenty of fun, and shared fun experiences created fresh, joyful memories that helped overshadow past difficulties.

Do your best to actively write new chapters in your relationship story…you’ll shift the overall tone to one of happiness and growth.

Tailored Solutions for Specific Challenges

While these proven ways to save a relationship work for most, many couples face specific challenges. Over the years, we’ve learned that each situation requires a tailored approach.

First things first, in cases of domestic violence or persistent emotional abuse, seeking safety and professional help should be the priority.

Our gifted psychics are here to help if you’re looking for personalized insights when:

» Trying to save a long-distance relationship

» Wondering how to rebuild after infidelity

» Struggling to reconnect after a painful breakup

As the poet Rumi said:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it”

Take the first step towards a healthier, happier relationship today!

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