Stop Wondering If He Loves You: Here is How to Test Him

Love can feel like a beautiful mystery, but sometimes that mystery leaves us with nagging doubts about our partner’s true feelings.

Every week, women call us with that same burning question:

Does he really love me?

When a man deeply loves you, he’ll naturally make you feel safe in the relationship, show consistent respect for your boundaries, and take a genuine interest in your thoughts and feelings even during ordinary moments. These behaviors aren’t performed – they flow naturally from a real emotional connection.

While these signs point toward true love, they can sometimes be confusing or hard to read if you aren’t sure what to expect from a man in a relationship.

Look, we’ve all been there…analyzing every text or wondering if that quick goodbye kiss meant something is wrong. Instead of driving yourself crazy, there are actual ways to test if your boyfriend really loves you.

The approaches we’re about to share have helped many women discover whether what they’re experiencing is genuine love or something less. Whether they should play a man who’s playing them or move on.

You deserve to know where you stand instead of riding that emotional rollercoaster of uncertainty day after day. So, let’s get into it.

How to Test Your Boyfriend’s Love for You

When you’re questioning your boyfriend’s feelings, you don’t have to rely on psychic abilities to find answers…though a little intuitive guidance from our love and relationship experts never hurts!

These practical tests can reveal the truth about his love. It isn’t just about grand gestures but consistent behavior that shows you matter to him.

Observe the Signs in His Daily Life

The most honest indicators of love aren’t found in special occasions but in the rhythm of everyday life together. Does he remember how you take your coffee without being reminded, or notice when you’ve had a stressful day before you even mention it?

These small details reveal his level of attention to your well-being.

If you think you’ve found a decent man who genuinely loves you, he’d integrate you into his routine naturally…calling to check in becomes automatic, not an obligation.

Our experience shows that men who are truly invested make space for you in their daily schedule, whether it’s a quick text during lunch or adjusting their morning routine to match yours.

We aren’t talking about him giving up his own thing, but about willingly creating a shared life.

Pay attention to how he handles the boring parts of relationship life. Does he willingly join you for grocery shopping or help with mundane tasks? Men who are deeply in love don’t compartmentalize their relationship to only fun or romantic moments…they’re all in, even during life’s ordinary times.

Notice How He Acts When You’re Not Around

What happens when you’re not physically present can tell you volumes about his true feelings.

Watch how he speaks about you to his friends and family when he doesn’t realize you’re listening. A man who loves you will naturally speak highly of you and defend your relationship if necessary.

We’ve found that guys who are genuinely committed don’t suddenly become different people when their partner isn’t around – their respect for you remains consistent whether you’re present or not.

Another revealing sign is how he spends time away from you.

Notice if he includes you in his thoughts during separation, sending you something that reminded him of you, or calling to share a moment.

These spontaneous connections show you’re on his mind and reduce the separation anxiety.

Men who are truly committed don’t see time apart as “freedom” but as a temporary state before returning to the person they love.

Pay Attention to His Body Language

What his body says often reveals what his words don’t. Body language plays a key role in communication, making it one of the most honest indicators of true feelings.

Watch for these revealing physical signs that indicate genuine love:

» Consistent eye contact – A man who loves you will look at you attentively during conversations, not glancing constantly at his phone or around the room

» Protective positioning – Notice if he naturally stands close to you in crowded spaces or places a gentle hand on your back when walking together

» Relaxed posture – When he’s comfortable around you, his body appears at ease, not stiff or closed off

» Mirroring your movements – Unconsciously matching your gestures or position shows a deep connection

» Physical touch – Small, non-sexual touches like hand-holding or shoulder touches throughout the day signal ongoing affection

Beyond these specific signals, notice how his expression changes when you enter a room. Does his face brighten? This isn’t something easily faked. We’ve counseled many women who discovered their partner’s true feelings by simply paying attention to these silent signals.

Remember that healthy relationships include physical affection that makes you feel safe, not uncomfortable. If his body language feels forced or inconsistent with his words, this disconnect might be your intuition picking up on something important.

Talk About Your Feelings to See If He Cares

Opening up about your emotions creates a perfect opportunity to test his response to vulnerability. A loving partner doesn’t just listen, but engages in a way that makes you feel heard and supported.

We aren’t suggesting creating drama.

Just challenge your man by sharing something difficult, or tell him you really feel safe with him. Then, watch how he reacts to see if he gives you his full attention. Men who truly love their partners make room for emotional conversations, even if they’re not naturally comfortable with feelings.

Even the most emotionally reserved guys will make genuine efforts to understand when they care deeply about someone.

Did he remember what you said later and follow up?

Did he make adjustments based on what you expressed?

Be mindful of red flags in these moments, like him consistently turning emotional conversations back to himself or dismissing your feelings as “overreacting.”

In a loving relationship, your emotions aren’t treated as an inconvenience or mistake to fix. Your partner creates an environment where you feel comfortable expressing yourself, rather than having relationship doubts.

Test If He Is Transparent About His Own Life

Love and transparency go hand in hand. A man who truly loves you won’t keep you compartmentalized away from significant parts of his life.

We recently spoke with Charlotte, a 38-year-old client who ignored a major first date red flag. “He mentioned his ex three times during dinner, but he was so charming otherwise,” she told us back then.

Eight months into their relationship, Charlotte noticed her boyfriend becoming increasingly secretive about his whereabouts on Tuesday evenings. When she casually asked about his plans, he’d give vague answers about “catching up with friends” but never offered specifics.

Charlotte’s intuition told her something was off. She called us and we advised her to ask him to join him one evening. His uncomfortable reaction confirmed her suspicions, and eventually, she discovered he had been meeting his ex-girlfriend regularly.

Pay attention to whether your boyfriend willingly shares details about his day, his friends, and his past without you having to interrogate him.

Does he tell you about that lunch with his coworker without you asking? Has he introduced you to the important people in his life? A man with nothing to hide makes sharing feel natural, not forced.

If simple questions about his day trigger defensiveness or if certain topics are completely off-limits, ask yourself why. In loving relationships, openness isn’t seen as an invasion but as a way to build trust.

Check If You’re Involved in His Future Plans

The way a man includes you in his vision of tomorrow speaks about his feelings today. When your boyfriend deeply loves you, you naturally become part of their future landscape…not as an afterthought, but as an essential element.

Notice how he talks about upcoming events, both big and small.

Does he automatically use “we” when discussing weekend plans or next summer’s vacation? Listen for subtle clues in his language that indicate he sees you as a permanent fixture in his life. If a man loves you, he won’t compartmentalize his future – he’ll weave you throughout his plans without hesitation.

This isn’t just about major milestones like marriage. Even smaller plans for quality time and shared experiences that haven’t happened yet suggest he can’t imagine those moments without you.

Pay attention to how he handles practical future decisions too.

If he considers how choices might affect you both, that’s a good sign. Men who are serious about their relationships naturally consider their partner’s needs when making decisions about jobs, relocations, or major purchases.

We don’t mean you controlling his choices, but rather that your happiness and well-being factor into his thought process.

If he avoids discussing anything beyond next weekend, it might be time to question how central you really are to his life plans, and whether that’s the man to build a relationship with.

Evaluate His Efforts to Make You Feel Special

Whether you think of love as a commitment, a choice, or just a feeling, the effort a man puts into making you feel cherished reveals a lot about his intentions.

A man who truly loves you will make consistent efforts to brighten your days, but sometimes you need to create opportunities to observe these efforts clearly.

We guide our clients in setting up small “tests” without playing manipulative games.

Try expressing specific desires in casual conversation rather than direct requests. For example, mention how you’ve been craving your favorite dessert after a long week, or how you’ve always wanted to try that restaurant outside of town…then observe.

Give him a chance to step up emotionally, and make you feel loved. If you’ve had a challenging day, share your feelings, but don’t immediately ask for support. Simply say, “Work was really stressful today,” then notice his response.

Another thing you should do is watch how he responds to your unique love language.

If you’ve made it clear that physical touch matters, does he naturally hold your hand or offer comforting hugs after difficult days? If you’ve emphasized you value quality time, does he create opportunities to be together without distractions?

Anyone can make grand gestures occasionally…true love shows up reliably.

Trust Your Intuition Above All

Through all these tests and observations, remember that your intuition is perhaps your most powerful tool. As a woman, you possess an incredible inner compass that often recognizes truth before your logical mind can process it.

Those gut feelings you experience aren’t random…they’re your subconscious connecting patterns that your conscious mind hasn’t fully assembled yet.

If you’re still struggling with uncertainty about your relationship despite these tests, you don’t have to navigate these waters alone.

Our compassionate love psychic advisors have guided thousands of good women like you to uncover insights and understand their partners.

A quick personal reading over the phone can provide the additional support and perspective you need to move forward with confidence.

Whether you’re seeking confirmation of what you already sense or you’re completely confused about where you stand, reach out today.

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