Am I Rushing Into a Relationship? Read & Find Out Now

That fluttery feeling when someone new walks into your life and suddenly everything feels perfect. We’ve all been there, honey…caught up in the excitement of new love, but then that little voice in your head whispers:

Am I rushing into a relationship?

If you’re ignoring red flags because you want it to work, losing touch with friends and family, planning your future together before really knowing each other, or having any emotional intimacy, chances are that you’re in a rushed relationship.

When those butterflies hit and everything feels magical…it’s natural to want to dive headfirst into love. But a balanced and fulfilling relationship is like a good recipe. It needs time to develop all those rich, deep flavors that make it satisfying.

The good news is you’re asking the right question, and we’ve been guiding women through all kinds of love and relationship challenges for decades.

So, in this article, we’ll help you figure out if you need to pump the brakes a little.

How to Tell If You’re Going Too Fast in a New Relationship?

Women often reach out, convinced they saw the clear signs of destined love. But after a session or two with one of our gifted psychics, most realize they need to slow things down. Let’s talk about the reasons.

You’re Planning Your Entire Life Together (After Just a Few Dates)

We’ve all met that couple who’s picking out wedding venues after three dates, right?

If you find yourself discussing moving in together, meeting each other’s parents, or planning next year’s vacation when you’ve only been together for a month or so…we’d say you’re rushing things.

Here’s the reality check: healthy relationships build their foundation slowly.

When you’re in the early stages of dating, you should still be figuring out basic compatibility. Things like whether you both want kids, share similar values, or can even agree on pizza toppings without a debate.

When someone feels right, it’s tempting to fast-forward through all the getting-to-know-you stuff.

If you aren’t new to love and romance, we’d recommend thinking about your past relationships for a moment. The ones that lasted probably took time to develop that solid foundation, while the rushed ones…they likely burned out just as quickly as they started.

A serious relationship needs time to grow naturally. If you’re already planning your entire life around someone you barely know, take a step back.

Physical Intimacy Is Outpacing Your Emotional Connection

Let’s talk about something that happens more often than we’d like to admit. You’re physically intimate with this person. Maybe even regularly spending the night together, but you don’t really know their biggest fears, what makes them laugh until they cry, or even their middle name.

Physical intimacy can create an illusion of closeness that isn’t there yet.

Your brain releases all those feel-good chemicals that make you think you’re more connected than you really are. Meanwhile, the emotional intimacy, the stuff that makes relationships work long-term, is lagging way behind.

One of our clients called us after realizing she’d been physically involved with a guy for two months but couldn’t answer basic questions about his life goals or family relationships.

“I felt so close to him, but I realized we were strangers who happened to be sleeping together.”

A fulfilling relationship needs both types of intimacy to develop at a healthy pace. If your physical connection is racing ahead while your emotional bond feels shallow…

Well, that’s your cue to slow things down, spend time talking and building that deeper level of understanding before your bodies write checks your hearts can’t cash.

By the way, if you want to dive deeper into the men and intimacy topic, check out this article.

You’ve Stopped Making Time for Friends and Family Members

Remember when you used to have a well-rounded life? You know, before this person showed up and suddenly became your entire social calendar?

If you’ve been canceling plans with friends and family to spend every free moment with your new romantic interest, we need to talk. Because, here’s what’s happening:

You’re so caught up in this new relationship that you’re abandoning the support system that’s been there for you through thick and thin. Your best friend has been texting you for weeks, your sister’s birthday dinner got pushed aside, and you can’t remember the last time you did something that didn’t involve your new partner.

This isn’t just unfair to the people who love you – it’s a red flag that you’re moving too fast. Healthy relationships enhance your existing life; they don’t replace it entirely. When you’re rushing into a relationship, you tend to put all your emotional eggs in one basket, which isn’t fair to anyone involved.

Your friends and family members are your reality check system. They’re the ones who can spot potential issues you might miss or unrealistic relationship expectations you must let go of when you’re wearing those rose-colored glasses.

Your Personal Interests Have Completely Disappeared

What happened to that yoga class you loved? Or those weekend hikes that used to clear your head? If you’ve suddenly dropped all your personal hobbies and interests to accommodate this new relationship, that’s a big warning sign that things are moving too fast.

We see this pattern all the time. You meet someone exciting, and suddenly your own life feels boring by comparison. Your personal time gets absorbed into couple time, and before you know it, you’re not sure who you are outside of this relationship.

Lisa, one of our regular callers, found herself in exactly this situation. She stopped reading the mystery novels she loved, and even quit her book club to spend more time with a new partner.

“I didn’t realize how much of myself I’d lost until he broke up with me. I had to remember who I was before him.”

If you find a decent man worth your time, he will want you to keep doing the things that light you up, not expect you to abandon them. If you’re dropping everything for someone new, pump the brakes and reconnect with your own life.

You’re Ignoring Red Flags Because You Want This to Work So Badly

That comment he made about your job being “cute but not really important”?

The way he rolls his eyes when you talk about your family?

Those are some of the big red flags you could spot on the very first date. But when we’re rushing into a relationship, we minimize deal breakers and become masters of excuse-making. We tell ourselves things like “everyone has flaws” or “they’ll change once we get serious.”

When you’re moving too fast emotionally, you’re invested in the outcome before you’ve really evaluated whether this is the right person for you. You want it to work so badly that you’ll overlook serious issues that would normally send you running.

You’re not dating the person they are…you’re dating the person you hope they’ll become.

You Don’t Really Know This Person Beyond the Surface Level

Here is a quick test we give ladies who call us, wondering whether they’re rushing things:

Can you tell us three things that genuinely worry your partner?

What is their biggest regret?

What were they like as a teenager?

If you’re drawing blanks, but you’ve already started thinking of them as your future spouse…we’ve got a problem.

Surface-level attraction is intoxicating. They’re charming, they make you laugh, and you have great chemistry. But if your conversations never go deeper than favorite movies and weekend plans, you’re not building a meaningful connection, but just enjoying each other’s company.

Getting to know someone’s real personality, their values, their communication style, and yes, even your new partner’s flaws, takes time. You must see them when they’re stressed, tired, or dealing with real-life problems.

If you’re still operating on surface-level information, slow down and start asking him the important questions.

You’re Constantly Posting About Your New Romance on Social Media

Something that didn’t exist in our parents’ dating era, but we see very often today, is the urge to broadcast every romantic moment online.

If your Instagram stories have become a 24/7 documentation of your new relationship, and you’re posting couple photos before you’ve even had the “what are we” conversation, that’s a sign you’re moving too fast.

Maria, who talks to one of our psychics on a regular basis, had this issue. She’d been posting about her new boyfriend daily for three weeks straight. She has been so busy showing everyone how happy she was that she never stopped to ask herself if she actually was happy or just liked the attention.

It was a wake-up call that helped her slow down and focus on the actual relationship instead of the performance of it.

Neither of You Has Discussed What This Relationship Means Long-Term

Here’s a scenario that might sound familiar:

You’re acting like you’re in a serious relationship.

You’ve met each other’s friends.

You’re spending most weekends together.

You might even have a drawer at their place.

But you’ve never actually talked about what any of this means or where it’s headed.

This is classic rushed relationship territory. You’re both moving forward physically and practically, but you’ve skipped the crucial conversations about expectations, goals, and what you both want from this connection. You’re assuming you’re on the same page without ever actually checking.

Maybe you’re afraid that bringing up the “where is this going” conversation will scare them away. Or perhaps you’re worried that defining things will somehow ruin the magic.

But here’s the reality:

Long-term relationships are built on open and honest communication from the start. You don’t need to plan your wedding on the third date, but you should both have a general sense of the strengths and values you can bring to the table.

If you’ve been avoiding these conversations while acting like a committed couple, it’s time to slow down and get on the same page about what this relationship means to both of you.

Final Words: Trust Your Heart, But Listen to Your Intuition Too

We know relationship questions can feel overwhelming, especially when your heart and your head seem to be saying different things.

If you’re still wondering whether you’re rushing into this relationship, or if our article has brought up even more questions about your love life…we’re here for you.

People often need an outside perspective from someone who can see the bigger picture of their romantic journey. Our gifted psychics have helped thousands of women just like you navigate these crossroads.

They can offer the clarity and guidance you’re looking for, whether that’s about slowing things down without ending the relationship, understanding your partner’s true intentions, or simply trusting your own instincts.

Ready to get the answers your heart is seeking?

Call us today and discover what your relationship future holds!

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