Still Stuck on Your Ex This Valentine’s Day? A Psychic’s Guide to Letting Go

You’re scrolling through your phone, and everyone’s posting about their Valentine’s plans. The first person who pops into your head isn’t someone new or even someone you’re casually seeing…it’s them.

You’ve tried to move on. You’ve done the self-care Sundays, deleted their number (twice), and told yourself you’re over it. But here comes Valentine’s Day, and suddenly you’re right back where you started:

Wondering if they’re thinking about you too, or if you’re the only one still carrying this.

Here’s what we want you to know: you’re not weak, and you’re not going backward. What you’re feeling has less to do with them and more to do with energy that hasn’t been released yet.

We’re going to show you exactly why you’re still stuck, give you a real process to start letting go, and explain when it helps to have someone guide you through it.

You don’t have to spend another Valentine’s Day like this…let’s get into it.

The Real Reason You Can’t Move On

You’ve probably blamed yourself a hundred times. Maybe you think you’re too sensitive, too nostalgic, or just bad at breakups. But what if the reason you can’t stop thinking about them has nothing to do with willpower?

When two people share a deep connection – one that involves love, intimacy, or unfinished emotional business, they create what we call an energy cord.

Think of it like an invisible thread that runs between you and your ex, feeding emotions back and forth even when you’re not in contact.

That’s not in your head. That’s real energy, and it doesn’t care how much time has passed or how much you’ve tried to logic your way out of it.

5 Signs You’re Energetically Tied to Your Ex

Here’s how you know the cord is still active. If three or more of these sound familiar, you’re dealing with a strong attachment.

You Check Their Energy Before You Check Your Phone

You wake up, and they’re already on your mind. Not because you decided to think about them, but because you felt them first. It’s like your system is scanning for their presence before you’re even fully conscious.

Some mornings it’s stronger than others, but it’s always there…that low hum of “are they okay?” or “are they thinking about me too?” You might not text them, but you’re absolutely checking in energetically.

Every New Person Feels Like a Downgrade

You go on dates. You meet people who are objectively great on paper. But nobody feels right.

It’s not because they’re actually lacking, but because you’re comparing everyone to a memory that’s been polished up in your mind. Your ex has become the standard, and anyone new gets measured against a version of them that probably didn’t even exist.

The bar isn’t high. It’s just placed in the wrong spot!

You’re Having the Same Fights With Different People

New relationship, same arguments. Different person, same frustrations.

You keep running into the same emotional walls, and it’s confusing because you thought you learned your lesson.

But here’s what we notice during readings with women feeling just like you:

The pattern isn’t about the new person. It’s the unfinished energy from the old one bleeding into everything you try to build. You’re still carrying their lessons, their wounds, their unresolved stuff…

And it shows up every time you get close to someone new!

You Feel Them Most at Night or in Dreams

During the day, you can keep yourself busy. You can logic your way through it, stay distracted, and convince yourself you’re fine. But at night?

That’s when your guard drops. You dream about them, not always romantic dreams, sometimes just mundane ones where they’re just there. Or you lie awake and feel this inexplicable heaviness, like they’re in the room with you.

That’s because energy speaks the loudest when your logical mind rests!

You Keep “Accidentally” Almost Contacting Them

You type out a text and delete it. You hover over their profile but don’t click. You drive past their neighborhood “by coincidence.” You draft the email, write the message, rehearse what you’d say…then stop yourself at the last second.

You tell yourself it’s closure you’re after, or that you just want to check in as friends. But you’re being pulled!

Don’t fool yourself that these are accidents or slip-ups. They’re energy cords tugging at you, trying to reconnect.

Here Is Your 3-Step Letting-Go Process

These are the steps that actually work on the energetic level where the attachment lives. You can start tonight.

Name What You’re Actually Holding Onto

Grab a piece of paper or open your notes app. Finish this sentence: “I’m not over them because I’m still hoping for……………………….”

Not the polite answer. Not what you’d tell a friend. The real one!

Are you hoping they’ll realize what they lost?

That they’ll come back different?

That you’ll get the apology you never received?

Write it down. Say it out loud if you can. Naming the attachment breaks some of its power because now it’s not just a feeling floating around.

And here’s where most people get stuck:

They write it down, feel a little lighter for a day or two, then find themselves hoping for the same thing again a week later. The hope reattaches because they haven’t cleared what’s feeding it underneath.

Cut the Cord With a Simple Visualization

Close your eyes. Take three slow breaths. Now picture the energetic cord between you and your ex…it might look like a rope, a thread, or even a beam of light.

Imagine cutting it. Some people visualize scissors, others see it dissolving, or picture pulling it out gently like a plug. Do whatever feels right.

As you cut it, notice what comes up. Relief? Resistance? Fear? Sadness? Nothing at all?

Just observe it. Don’t judge yourself for whatever you feel.

Sometimes it doesn’t work:

You might feel temporary relief, but within hours or days, the cord “re-attaches.” You wake up the next morning and the pull is back, sometimes even stronger.

That happens because the visualization addressed the cord, but not the belief or wound that created it in the first place.

Do This One Thing Tonight (Before the Pull Gets Stronger)

Tonight, before bed, light a candle…any candle. Say out loud: “I release what’s not mine to carry.”

Then sit for just 60 seconds and notice what happens. Do you feel lighter? Calmer? Or does your mind immediately start arguing, defending, making excuses for why you can’t let go yet?

That reaction tells you everything.

If you felt peace, you’re on the right path. If you felt tightness, panic, or your thoughts started spinning…that’s your sign.

The attachment runs deeper than a simple ritual can reach, especially with Valentine’s Day coming up.

Let us share a quick story…

Last February, a woman called us three days before Valentine’s Day. She’d been broken up for eight months but was about to text her ex “happy Valentine’s” because the silence felt unbearable.

She told us she’d tried everything…the journal prompts, the meditations, even blocking him on social media, but nothing stuck.

During the reading, our psychic helped her see what she couldn’t see on her own…she wasn’t missing him. She was missing the version of herself who still believed love could work out.

The cord was to that feeling of hope she’d attached to his face. We walked her through cutting it in real time, and she cried for most of the call. Not sad tears. Release tears.

That’s what real energetic release feels like, but it’s not always easy to make it happen.

Why This Is Hard to Do Alone Sometimes?

When you’re this close to someone energetically, your own perspective is part of the tangle. You know the steps, you followed them, but nothing changes…and that’s where we can help.

During a reading, our psychic will see what you can’t!

Whether the cord is to them or to a pattern they represent, whether they’re still energetically attached on their end, and whether what you’re feeling is intuition or just hope dressed up as a sign.

Our job is to hold the space while you do the hard part. You don’t have to be strong enough to cut the cord and watch yourself do it at the same time.

If you’ve tried to let go before and keep getting pulled back, if Valentine’s Day is making you panic or consider reaching out, if you’re not sure whether you’re healing or just going numb…let us help.

Give us a call, and we’ll read your energy, guide you through cutting the cord, and help you release what’s not meant for you. Let’s make this Valentine’s Day mark the beginning of something new.

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